Nobody says life is easy. Life can be quite hard, especially if you have a lot on your plate. You should always remember that you can make life easier for yourself. The first step is realizing that it is your life and you need to live it for you. When you realize this, I’ve written down a couple of changes you need to think about.
Clear your schedule to do something you’ve been wanting to do.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been thinking about taking a trip somewhere or you just wanted some time to take a very long bath, make sure you do it. Make sure you have the time to do something just for you – trust me, you really need it.
Learn to say no without explaining yourself.
People who have trouble saying no are often taken advantage of. If you’re somebody who has trouble saying no (like me) it can be difficult to see or understand this. I know this, because for me, it was very hard to realize that I was busy making life easier for others, while I was exhausting myself. I felt like being tired or even some things in my own life were no ‘excuse’ not to help someone I knew, so I felt guilty. But I didn’t have to feel guilty and neither do you. You can’t do it all and you know what, you don’t have to! A simple ‘no’ will suffice.
Let go of negative people.
It’s not difficult to recognize a negative person. It’s that friend that only calls you to tell you her problems, because he/she wants your support or advice or even just wants somebody who will listen to their problems. But where is that friend when her life is on track and he/she is happy? You see them going out and having fun but you’re almost never invited. If you recognize this in someone, let go of them. They say they love and appreciate you, but they really don’t. If they did, they would also share their happiness with you, not only their misery. It may seem like they need you, but they really don’t. Don’t be afraid to let go. Negativity is like poison, you don’t want that in your life.
Don’t feel like you have to hold on to friendships that died a long time ago.
Remember that friend you used to have so much fun with? There were times where you could talk to them for hours and it still wouldn’t be enough, but lately it seems like conversations are forced. You never really feel like meeting up with them, but you still do, hoping that it will be like old times. Don’t feel bad to let that friendship go. You both have probably changed and went your seperate directions and that’s absolutely okay. You don’t have to feel bad, your friend probably feels the same way. You don’t need a friendship that drains the energy out of you, sometimes it’s just better to follow your own path and let them follow theirs.
Stop being afraid of failure.
The road to succes is never a straight line. The trick is to get up everytime you fall. Nobody tells you that following your passion is easy, but i twill definitely be worth it.
Stop comparing yourself to others [and their succes].
I really can not stress this one enough. Everybody is different and everyone has different goals – always remember that. You may think that the girl you used to go to highschool with is living the perfect life, but you don’t know how she got there. You don’t know how hard she worked for it, you don’t know about the sacrifices she had to make to reach her level of succes. You don’t even know if she’s as happy with her life as you think– maybe she wants a different life. Maybe she thinks the same way about your life as you think about hers (social media is NOT a window into someones life). Always be gratefull for what you have, and if you want more – work for it. Don’t just sit back and watch how others are achieving your goals. Stand up, work hard and achieve them yourself. You’ll see that when you’re busy chasing your dreams, you won’t have time to think about anything or anyone else.